Away from New Baby for the First Time

Being with your baby at this age is not only completely natural, but definitely healthy! You are enjoying it and you are aware that you will be separating from her in the not too distant future in order to finish your education. This represents a natural evolution of your mother-infant relationship. You will separate from her as is necessary for your development, while taking care to place her with someone you trust.

There really are no hard and fast rules about when it is healthy or unhealthy to separate from your baby for the first time. It is all a matter of the individual mother-child fit. There is no reason to artificially force a separation. If you are happy to be with her, she is best off with you!

The entire first year of a child's life is a crucial period. It is during this time that your daughter forms the foundation for establishing basic trust. This will be the early blueprint for all other relationships. In fact, her ability to form lasting and rewarding relationships depends on the amount of emotional security she has established in her primary relationship with you.

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The more you intuit and meet her needs now, the more secure she will be in the future. Being with her assures the best possibility for secure attachment. Your time with her is precious and valuable to your bonding and future mother-daughter relationship. You acquire knowledge about her- what she likes, dislikes, what scares her or makes her laugh!

You are sharing a very special time of bonding with your daughter at this age. The more time you feel comfortable and happy spending with her, the more you will get to know who this little being really is! Do not let others interfere with your very healthy maternal instinct. Trust your feelings. You know your baby better than anyone.

And remember that as your daughter's mother, you are someone who cares deeply about her and is committed to her best interests. This sets you apart from others who will care for her. It is through your watchful eye that others are hired to caretake her because you know her needs and because you are the one who will oversee her development for the next 18 years. The more you can be with her now, the better! Do not feel guilty for your attachment. Let your instincts and feelings be your guide. You are in the best position to know what is right for your child.